Childcare administration is an incredibly isolating profession. You are the boss, which means you cannot vent to your teaching staff about your daily frustrations. You cannot complain to the parents about regulatory headaches. You are entirely alone on an island. This is exactly why building a strong network of other local center directors is absolutely critical to your survival.
Stop viewing the director of the center down the street as your mortal enemy. There are plenty of children to go around. Reach out and invite them to coffee. When you build a circle of trusted peers, you gain an invaluable sounding board. You can share contractor recommendations, discuss incoming state ratio changes, and finally talk openly to someone who truly understands the unique weight of this job. Joining your state's childcare association and attending even one regional conference per year can transform the way you feel about your career.